Changing friendships

If you’re pregnant you’ll need to accept that your life has changed. Your plans, your friendships, your family, all different now. Sounds dramatic but don’t panic, this is a change but not the end.

Trying to keep up with your life as if you aren’t pregnant will not help you. Denial is very powerful but it stops you from getting the best out of yourself. Be honest about your life, your plans and your friends now. Some of them you can bring with you but some of them – sorry about this – you will leave behind. Stark as that. This is growing up and this happens to everyone, you’re just moving quicker than most people. Maybe you can pick back up with them later on but right now you need to surround yourself with people who respect what you’re doing and don’t try to distract you from where you’re trying to get to.

My best friend, she still wants me to go out like we used to. I don’t want to miss out just because I’m pregnant. There’s a part of me that wants to pretend it isn’t happening

Find good people, the ones who respect you and your life, this is especially important now that your health and your future have to be your priority. You will find your current friendships changing and growing and you’ll also meet new people just through being pregnant – this happen whatever age you are and it’s a natural part of pregnancy.

People really showed me who they were. Some friends, I thought I was really close them but they ended up making everything more difficult for me, and there’s new people that I just click better with now

Prioritise your life. What do you want? What do you need? How are the people around you helping you to get these? If they aren’t helping you then you owe it to yourself and your future to step back from them. You won’t be alone, there’s always someone nearby who can remind you that you’re on the right track and that every day that you look after yourself and your future is another day won.

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