We’ll get straight to the point. One person has the decision here and that is the pregnant woman. The people around her can offer support, guidance and ideas but must respect her and her decision. Plenty of people think they have a right to tell pregnant women what to do but they’re wrong.
If you’re pregnant and deciding what to do it can feel like you have to please everyone, but it is your life and it is your responsibility to make the right decision for you.
Other people will also have opinions and want to help you, listen to them and respect what they have to say, even if it is the exact opposite of what you feel. Your family, the father, his family will have things to say and you should show them the respect that you’d would like to receive back. Even if you disagree with them, do it with respect.
Do not accept shouting on this subject. Anyone who shouts at you with their opinion of what they think you have to do is not showing you the respect you deserve. Explain to them that you can’t listen to them when they’re shouting and that they need to explain themselves in a better and more clear way. Maybe insist that you take a break and come back to the conversation. Sometimes it helps to write down bullet points of what you think so you can hold on to it if you’re feeling overwhelmed or outnumbered.
You can choose how much you tell other people about this. Both now and forever, this is your personal story and you are not obliged to reveal it unless you want to. There is no mark