What happens after you’ve told your family you’re pregnant? Do they hit the roof? Cry? Stay strangely quiet? Are you right now sat on your bed listening to them still crashing around downstairs yelling about it? What next?
Trust us, you don’t need to have this all figured out already. They might ask questions that you can’t answer or don’t want to answer. Tell them this, let them know you need more time before you can talk about everything.
This is a lot to take on board and – just a reminder – this is happening to you and not them. It’s okay to not know what you want to do. This is where your support team come in to help you with information and logistics.
I told my mum and she called my dad to tell him. I just stood in the background and could hear him yelling down the phone. It took a few days for me to be able to sit with him and talk about it
If everyone seems to be mad at you, give them a little time. You’ve probably had a few weeks where, even if you weren’t sure, you kinda knew something was going on. They’re allowed to be shocked. Then tell them honestly how you feel, if you’re scared, if you’re sick or if you’re asking for their help.
My boyfriend told his mum and she came back into his room at about midnight to tell him how he’d ruined his life
If it’s gone really badly and their reaction is scaring you, get yourself somewhere safe. Friends, other family member or your local authority. You need to be protected and keep yourself away from potential harm. Contact them afterwards and offer to meet them in a public place to talk it over and take a friend or family member with you.